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7 Tell-Tale Signs You’re Having a Quarter-Life Crisis

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I turned 25 just half a month ago and I can say that QLC is definitely a real thing, and not just some sort of a fad where everyone seems to have jumped onto the bandwagon because it’s cool. For quite a while now, I’ve been feeling lost and helpless and frustrated upon finding out that adult life isn’t what I initially expected it to be. This is especially true if you are extremely introverted and socially awkward; it will be like playing a videogame on Ultra Hard Mode. :p

The following are some tell-tale signs that you are having a QLC. These are based on my personal experience.

  1. Job promiscuity.
    “So you’re a college graduate? Good! And you have a professional license? Even better! However, we’re looking for applicants who already have work experience so we can only offer you this much salary in exchange for us slaving you to death.”
    All your college days, you were revved up to the idea of working and earning money as a reward for your hard work studying.
    What’s sad is when you do finish five years of studying and about half a year of preparing for a licensure exam, and you realize that it isn’t the kind of work that you would want to do (all the more for lawyers and doctors, God forbid). Even sadder is the idea of practicing your profession your entire life but not liking it one bit.
  2. You’re tired, depressed, and negative.
    Why am I always so low on energy and can’t survive the day without caffeine? When will I ever get my “me time”? Why am I stuck in this awful job? When will I be able to save enough money so I can quit my day job and finally bless the world with my sheer artistic talent? (Heheh.) Since when did keeping friends and making new ones become so hard?
  3. Endless boredom.
    You binge-watch Youtube videos, you binge-read Buzzfeed articles, you binge-browse at Facebook, you binge-everything. You’d go on vacations once in a while and yet they all feel so rushed and short-lived. No matter what you do, you feel like you’re stuck in a rut.
  4. You’re wishing to do something crazy but too afraid to get out of your comfort zone.
    Your comfort zone is the number of things you can do without feeling anxious. Hence, this can be especially hard if you’re a person with anxiety issues.
  5. Romance pressures.
    Your parents keep on asking when you plan on getting married. Your friends nudge you to be more proactive in the dating game and set you up with random strangers just because. You can’t break up with your current beau even though you are unhappy, because you’re too scared to start over.
  6. Comparing yourself to people your age.
    OCD (Obsessive Comparison Disorder) is term coined by allgroanup.com. This is a common condition among today’s youth; but honestly, they are also the ones to blame for falling prey to such obvious media traps.
  7. Time seems to flow so fast and out of your control.
    I feels just like yesterday when I graduated from college. Long gone are the days when studies are my priorities. The days now change very fast as I concern myself with deadlines and countless overtime sessions at work. It feels like my employer owns me. Now I’m too scared to sleep tonight and wake up tomorrow as my 30 year-old self. Yikes.

Now here are the things I do in order to deal with it:

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Photo credits: camein.com

  1. Cure your OCD at its first sign before it gets worse.
    Someone told me that quitting Facebook is a social suicide. You know what? He’s right. But I’m a lot happier without it.
    Always remind yourself that life isn’t a race. The only persons that you should compare yourself to are your old self and your future (ideal) self. If possible, find a mentor, or a role model. Personally, I find Sophia Amoruso’s story extremely inspiring (#Girlboss).
  2. Get out of that bubble.
    The world is your friggin oyster so don’t you ever think that you got no other options. Don’t make excuses. Act on it. Great ideas are useless if not paired with action.
  3. Stop stressing over the things that you have no control over.
    Be grateful about the good things and don’t mind the bad. Besides, worrying won’t solve anything.
  4. Take time to smell the flowers.
    Smell them so forcefully that the pollens get inside your nostrils. Always cease the day.
  5. Make a solid schedule and develop habits. Make sure to stick with them.
    Nothing is more powerful than good habits, as they dictate your automatic response to everyday things. This also helps manage your limited time (and energy). I always find myself lacking time to do the things I truly want, but as a friend said, “Living and not doing the things that you love cannot even be considered living at all.”
  6. Stop being such a people pleaser.
    You don’t need other people’s constant reassurance.
  7. Learn what you really, truly love. And then, pursue it will flaming passion.
    If you’re gonna fail, fail NOW, rather than in your 30’s or 40’s. Don’t be scared to try something new. Never fall into the trap of thinking “Well, I’m already on this path so even though I’m unhappy, I’ll just continue going through it.” Do yourself a favor and stop compromising your happiness. You can do better.

Above all, just always remember that you are not alone in this. Take this opportunity to finally figure out who you are and what you should be aiming for. But then again you don’t need to have it all figured out–just enjoy the ride.

Quarter Life Problems

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Aaaaand I’m back! It’s been more than two years since my last post in this blog. It’s been a rollercoaster ride for me ever since. But now that I’m recovering from my self-imposed quarter life crisis (definition by Wiki: a period of life usually ranging from the late teens to the early thirties, in which a person begins to feel doubtful about their own lives, brought on by the stress of becoming an adult), I’m determined to bring back my old self.

Since then a lot of things happened: I had graduated from college, passed the Board Exam for CPA’s, had my first two jobs, and now I am on a vacation–transition to the next job–so yes that’s about three jobs for almost a span of two years. Oops. :-p

I realized I was burning out more easily than before. I’m guessing it’s because of the lack of this–writing my thoughts on my own journal–and, God forbid, I felt like I was losing my own personality. In short, I didn’t notice that I was already trying to blend in with the crowd.

I got too preoccupied by how fast time flies that each passing moment was losing its essence; I was too scared of the responsibilities, of getting old. I will not elaborate on the details, but I felt like I was always running out of time, that I couldn’t anymore afford to stop to smell the flowers unlike back in the day. And being the introvert that I am, who expresses herself better in writing, I eventually lost my voice in this world full of noise. Every thoughts ingrained on me, nstead of asking, “Is this what God wants for me? Is this what I truly desire?” I tend to ask “Is this the best course of action to take?” to other people who are no better in making decisions for themselves.

Don’t get me wrong, I really really tried to go back. Every now and then I would play games and watch anime too (also in a hasteful manner) but the hype would only last for a moment. I tried writing blog posts again and again but always got distracted and decide not to post them. (Perhaps I was waiting for an epic idea to make my comeback post, but alas, no such idea hit me.)

Well at least I made the effort. 🙂 For my next posts I will share what I have been up to lately.

For now look at the picture of Octo. Just because. Hoho.

Meow.