I turned 25 just half a month ago and I can say that QLC is definitely a real thing, and not just some sort of a fad where everyone seems to have jumped onto the bandwagon because it’s cool. For quite a while now, I’ve been feeling lost and helpless and frustrated upon finding out that adult life isn’t what I initially expected it to be. This is especially true if you are extremely introverted and socially awkward; it will be like playing a videogame on Ultra Hard Mode. :p
The following are some tell-tale signs that you are having a QLC. These are based on my personal experience.
- Job promiscuity.
“So you’re a college graduate? Good! And you have a professional license? Even better! However, we’re looking for applicants who already have work experience so we can only offer you this much salary in exchange for us slaving you to death.”
All your college days, you were revved up to the idea of working and earning money as a reward for your hard work studying.
What’s sad is when you do finish five years of studying and about half a year of preparing for a licensure exam, and you realize that it isn’t the kind of work that you would want to do (all the more for lawyers and doctors, God forbid). Even sadder is the idea of practicing your profession your entire life but not liking it one bit.
- You’re tired, depressed, and negative.
Why am I always so low on energy and can’t survive the day without caffeine? When will I ever get my “me time”? Why am I stuck in this awful job? When will I be able to save enough money so I can quit my day job and finally bless the world with my sheer artistic talent? (Heheh.) Since when did keeping friends and making new ones become so hard?
- Endless boredom.
You binge-watch Youtube videos, you binge-read Buzzfeed articles, you binge-browse at Facebook, you binge-everything. You’d go on vacations once in a while and yet they all feel so rushed and short-lived. No matter what you do, you feel like you’re stuck in a rut.
- You’re wishing to do something crazy but too afraid to get out of your comfort zone.
Your comfort zone is the number of things you can do without feeling anxious. Hence, this can be especially hard if you’re a person with anxiety issues.
- Romance pressures.
Your parents keep on asking when you plan on getting married. Your friends nudge you to be more proactive in the dating game and set you up with random strangers just because. You can’t break up with your current beau even though you are unhappy, because you’re too scared to start over.
- Comparing yourself to people your age.
OCD (Obsessive Comparison Disorder) is term coined by allgroanup.com. This is a common condition among today’s youth; but honestly, they are also the ones to blame for falling prey to such obvious media traps.
- Time seems to flow so fast and out of your control.
I feels just like yesterday when I graduated from college. Long gone are the days when studies are my priorities. The days now change very fast as I concern myself with deadlines and countless overtime sessions at work. It feels like my employer owns me. Now I’m too scared to sleep tonight and wake up tomorrow as my 30 year-old self. Yikes.
Now here are the things I do in order to deal with it:
- Cure your OCD at its first sign before it gets worse.
Someone told me that quitting Facebook is a social suicide. You know what? He’s right. But I’m a lot happier without it.
Always remind yourself that life isn’t a race. The only persons that you should compare yourself to are your old self and your future (ideal) self. If possible, find a mentor, or a role model. Personally, I find Sophia Amoruso’s story extremely inspiring (#Girlboss).
- Get out of that bubble.
The world is your friggin oyster so don’t you ever think that you got no other options. Don’t make excuses. Act on it. Great ideas are useless if not paired with action.
- Stop stressing over the things that you have no control over.
Be grateful about the good things and don’t mind the bad. Besides, worrying won’t solve anything.
- Take time to smell the flowers.
Smell them so forcefully that the pollens get inside your nostrils. Always cease the day.
- Make a solid schedule and develop habits. Make sure to stick with them.
Nothing is more powerful than good habits, as they dictate your automatic response to everyday things. This also helps manage your limited time (and energy). I always find myself lacking time to do the things I truly want, but as a friend said, “Living and not doing the things that you love cannot even be considered living at all.”
- Stop being such a people pleaser.
You don’t need other people’s constant reassurance.
- Learn what you really, truly love. And then, pursue it will flaming passion.
If you’re gonna fail, fail NOW, rather than in your 30’s or 40’s. Don’t be scared to try something new. Never fall into the trap of thinking “Well, I’m already on this path so even though I’m unhappy, I’ll just continue going through it.” Do yourself a favor and stop compromising your happiness. You can do better.
Above all, just always remember that you are not alone in this. Take this opportunity to finally figure out who you are and what you should be aiming for. But then again you don’t need to have it all figured out–just enjoy the ride.